Hey, can anyone advise me – I’ve gone and done it again; my boyfriend bought me a bday gift and, rather than showing him gratitude I lost it, flew off the handle. He stormed out and is now ignoring me, and I feel like such an ungrateful so and so. I have tried to contact him but he’s ignoring me – what should I do? I’m feeling so anxious I have ruined everything. Thanks, Molly x
Hey Molly – I know exactly that feeling – how long have you guys been together? Is this a one off for you to act this way? My advice would be if its just an blip – give him space to calm down and he should be in touch. Good luck! Steph x
Molly – probably not the wisest of moves but we are human so don’t beat yourself up. I personally agree with Steph but also own what you have done. Give him space but he will be in touch and just apologise and be sure to assure him it was a one off. Oh and wear whatever he bought you (lol!) Good luck, Debs x
Hey Molly, thought you may like to hear this from a guy’s perspective too; men really don’t like it when their GF flips out and beware it can really be off putting. You may have some grovelling to do but be sure to avoid the lashing out again, especially if you really like him. The reality is nowadays there is plenty of choice in that cookie jar so don’t give him a reason to go for an ‘alternative biscuit!’ – Andy
Try not to beat yourself up we all do it. I know it’s so hard but I find it’s so important to be mindful and try think before we speak. It’s not easy and I often fly off the handle or say things I don’t mean so I’m really trying to stop think breathe and think what I’m going to say before I say it. Gratitude is key and not being spoilt. Have less expectations for presents or what he should be doing then there is no disappointment . I would just give him time and show him how grateful you are for him
Love this Susi – I totally relate to this but in reality sometimes i just flip out and then feel sooo guilty for saying something in the first place, I then internalize it and blame myself and feel insecure. Its a viscious cycle. Kx
We have all been there before. I for one know what it is like to go from 0-180 in seconds. The best suggestion is rather than flying off the handle, you should practice ways in which to prevent you getting to this stage. Sometimes pausing and taking it all in works better than an immediate reaction.